Your focus on the Greek word "aphiemi" seems a little misplaced. As Mrs. White says, words do not always have the same meaning, and we should not be overly focused on them or insistent that they must be used in a certain way to the exclusion of others. (See the quote below, with special focus on the first and the second-to-last paragraphs--more of the statement provided for context.)
The word "aphiemi" is one I have studied carefully. It has different meanings and usages, just as words like "take" have in English. The word "take" in English may occupy an entire page in the dictionary in giving the sense for its various usages, and the word "aphiemi" similarly occupies a lengthy portion in describing its usages, which are many. "Remit" is hardly the only way in which it is used. In fact, I would suggest that this usage is among the least of its applications.
The word "aphiemi" (G863) is variously translated as: "AV — leave 52, forgive 47, suffer 14, let 8, forsake 6, let alone 6, misc 13" with a Strong's definition of "ἀφίημι aphíēmi, af-ee'-ay-mee; from G575 and ἵημι híēmi (to send; an intensive form of εἶμι eîmi, to go); to send forth, in various applications (as follow):—cry, forgive, forsake, lay aside, leave, let (alone, be, go, have), omit, put (send) away, remit, suffer, yield up."
Mat 3:15 | And Jesus answering said unto him, Suffer G863 it to be so now: for thus it becometh us to fulfil all righteousness. Then he suffered G863 him. |
Mat 4:11 | Then the devil leaveth G863 him, and, behold, angels came and ministered unto him. |
Mat 4:20 | And they straightway left G863 their nets, and followed him. |
Mat 4:22 | And they immediately left G863 the ship and their father, and followed him. |
Mat 5:24 | Leave G863 there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift. |
Mat 5:40 | And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let G863 G0 him have G863 thy cloke also. |
Mat 6:12 | And forgive G863 us our debts, as we forgive G863 our debtors. |
Mat 6:14 | For if ye forgive G863 men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive G863 you: |
Mat 6:15 | But if ye forgive G863 not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive G863 your trespasses. |
Mat 7:4 | Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let G863 me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? |
Mat 8:15 | And he touched her hand, and the fever left G863 her: and she arose, and ministered unto them. |
Mat 8:22 | But Jesus said unto him, Follow me; and let G863 the dead bury their dead. |
Mat 9:2 | And, behold, they brought to him a man sick of the palsy, lying on a bed: and Jesus seeing their faith said unto the sick of the palsy; Son, be of good cheer; thy sins be forgiven G863 thee. |
Mat 9:5 | For whether is easier, to say, Thy sins be forgiven G863 thee; or to say, Arise, and walk? |
Mat 9:6 | But that ye may know that the Son of man hath power on earth to forgive G863 sins, (then saith he to the sick of the palsy,) Arise, take up thy bed, and go unto thine house. |
Mat 12:31 | Wherefore I say unto you, All manner of sin and blasphemy shall be forgiven G863 unto men: but the blasphemy against the Holy Ghost shall G863 G0 not be forgiven G863 unto men. |
Mat 12:32 | And whosoever speaketh a word against the Son of man, it shall be forgiven G863 him: but whosoever speaketh against the Holy Ghost, it shall G863 G0 not be forgiven G863 him, neither in this world, neither in the world to come. |
Mat 13:30 | Let G863 both grow together until the harvest: and in the time of harvest I will say to the reapers, Gather ye together first the tares, and bind them in bundles to burn them: but gather the wheat into my barn. |
Mat 13:36 | Then Jesus sent G863 G0 the multitude away, G863 and went into the house: and his disciples came unto him, saying, Declare unto us the parable of the tares of the field. |
Mat 15:14 | Let G863 G0 them alone: G863 they be blind leaders of the blind. And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch. |
Mat 18:12 | How think ye? if a man have an hundred sheep, and one of them be gone astray, doth he G863 G0 not leave G863 the ninety and nine, and goeth into the mountains, and seeketh that which is gone astray? |
Mat 18:21 | Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive G863 him? till seven times? |
Mat 18:27 | Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave G863 him the debt. |
Mat 18:32 | Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave G863 thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me: |
Mat 18:35 | So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive G863 not every one his brother their trespasses. |
Mat 19:14 | But Jesus said, Suffer G863 little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven. |
Mat 19:27 | Then answered Peter and said unto him, Behold, we have forsaken G863 all, and followed thee; what shall we have therefore? |
Mat 19:29 | And every one that hath forsaken G863 houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name's sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life. |
Mat 22:22 | When they had heard these words, they marvelled, and left G863 him, and went their way. |
Mat 22:25 | Now there were with us seven brethren: and the first, when he had married a wife, deceased, and, having no issue, left G863 his wife unto his brother: |
Mat 23:13 | But woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye shut up the kingdom of heaven against men: for ye neither go in yourselves, neither suffer ye G863 them that are entering to go in. |
Mat 23:23 | Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye pay tithe of mint and anise and cummin, and have omitted G863 the weightier matters of the law, judgment, mercy, and faith: these ought ye to have done, and not to leave G863 G0 the other undone. G863 |
Mat 23:38 | Behold, your house is left G863 unto you desolate. |
Mat 24:2 | And Jesus said unto them, See ye not all these things? verily I say unto you, There shall G863 G0 not be left G863 here one stone upon another, that shall not be thrown down. |
Mat 24:40 | Then shall two be in the field; the one shall be taken, and the other left. G863 |
Mat 24:41 | Two women shall be grinding at the mill; the one shall be taken, and the other left. G863 |
Mat 26:44 | And he left G863 them, and went away again, and prayed the third time, saying the same words. |
Mat 26:56 | But all this was done, that the scriptures of the prophets might be fulfilled. Then all the disciples forsook G863 him, and fled. |
Mat 27:49 | The rest said, Let be, G863 let us see whether Elias will come to save him. |
Mat 27:50 | Jesus, when he had cried again with a loud voice, yielded up G863 the ghost. |
Mar 1:18 | And straightway they forsook G863 their nets, and followed him. |
Mar 1:20 | And straightway he called them: and they left G863 their father Zebedee in the ship with the hired servants, and went after him. |
Mar 1:31 | And he came and took her by the hand, and lifted her up; and immediately the fever left G863 her, and she ministered unto them. |
Mar 1:34 | And he healed many that were sick of divers diseases, and cast out many devils; and suffered G863 not the devils to speak, because they knew him. |
Mar 2:5 | When Jesus saw their faith, he said unto the sick of the palsy, Son, thy sins be forgiven G863 thee. |
Mar 2:7 | Why doth this man thus speak blasphemies? who can forgive G863 sins but God only? |
Mar 2:9 | Whether is it easier to say to the sick of the palsy, Thy sins be forgiven G863 thee; or to say, Arise, and take up thy bed, and walk? |
Mar 2:10 | But that ye may know that the Son of man hath power on earth to forgive G863 sins, (he saith to the sick of the palsy,) |
Mar 3:28 | Verily I say unto you, All sins shall be forgiven G863 unto the sons of men, and blasphemies wherewith soever they shall blaspheme: |
Mar 4:12 | That seeing they may see, and not perceive; and hearing they may hear, and not understand; lest at any time they should be converted, and their sins should be forgiven G863 them. |
Mar 4:36 | And when they had sent away G863 the multitude, they took him even as he was in the ship. And there were also with him other little ships. |
Mar 5:19 | Howbeit Jesus suffered G863 him not, but saith unto him, Go home to thy friends, and tell them how great things the Lord hath done for thee, and hath had compassion on thee. |
Mar 5:37 | And he suffered G863 no man to follow him, save Peter, and James, and John the brother of James. |
Mar 7:8 | For laying aside G863 the commandment of God, ye hold the tradition of men, as the washing of pots and cups: and many other such like things ye do. |
Mar 7:12 | And ye suffer G863 him no more to do ought for his father or his mother; |
Mar 7:27 | But Jesus said unto her, Let G863 the children first be filled: for it is not meet to take the children's bread, and to cast it unto the dogs. |
Mar 8:13 | And he left G863 them, and entering into the ship again departed to the other side. |
Mar 10:14 | But when Jesus saw it, he was much displeased, and said unto them, Suffer G863 the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God. |
Mar 10:28 | Then Peter began to say unto him, Lo, we have left G863 all, and have followed thee. |
Mar 10:29 | And Jesus answered and said, Verily I say unto you, There is no man that hath left G863 house, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my sake, and the gospel's, |
Mar 11:6 | And they said unto them even as Jesus had commanded: and they let G863 G0 them go. G863 |
Mar 11:16 | And would G863 G0 not suffer G863 that any man should carry any vessel through the temple. |
Mar 11:25 | And when ye stand praying, forgive, G863 if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive G863 you your trespasses. |
Mar 11:26 | But if ye do G863 G0 not forgive, G863 neither will G863 G0 your Father which is in heaven forgive G863 your trespasses. |
Mar 12:12 | And they sought to lay hold on him, but feared the people: for they knew that he had spoken the parable against them: and they left G863 him, and went their way. |
Mar 12:19 | Master, Moses wrote unto us, If a man's brother die, and leave his wife behind him, and leave G863 no children, that his brother should take his wife, and raise up seed unto his brother. |
Mar 12:20 | Now there were seven brethren: and the first took a wife, and dying left G863 no seed. |
Mar 12:21 | And the second took her, and died, neither left G863 he any seed: and the third likewise. |
Mar 12:22 | And the seven had her, and left G863 no seed: last of all the woman died also. |
Mar 13:2 | And Jesus answering said unto him, Seest thou these great buildings? there shall G863 G0 not be left G863 one stone upon another, that shall not be thrown down. |
Mar 13:34 | For the Son of man is as a man taking a far journey, who left G863 his house, and gave authority to his servants, and to every man his work, and commanded the porter to watch. |
Mar 14:6 | And Jesus said, Let G863 G0 her alone; G863 why trouble ye her? she hath wrought a good work on me. |
Mar 14:50 | And they all forsook G863 him, and fled. |
Mar 15:36 | And one ran and filled a spunge full of vinegar, and put it on a reed, and gave him to drink, saying, Let alone; G863 let us see whether Elias will come to take him down. |
Mar 15:37 | And Jesus cried G863 with a loud voice, and gave up the ghost. |
Luk 4:39 | And he stood over her, and rebuked the fever; and it left G863 her: and immediately she arose and ministered unto them. |
Luk 5:11 | And when they had brought their ships to land, they forsook G863 all, and followed him. |
Luk 5:20 | And when he saw their faith, he said unto him, Man, thy sins are forgiven G863 thee. |
Luk 5:21 | And the scribes and the Pharisees began to reason, saying, Who is this which speaketh blasphemies? Who can forgive G863 sins, but God alone? |
Luk 5:23 | Whether is easier, to say, Thy sins be forgiven G863 thee; or to say, Rise up and walk? |
Luk 5:24 | But that ye may know that the Son of man hath power upon earth to forgive G863 sins, (he said unto the sick of the palsy,) I say unto thee, Arise, and take up thy couch, and go into thine house. |
Luk 6:42 | Either how canst thou say to thy brother, Brother, let me G863 pull out the mote that is in thine eye, when thou thyself beholdest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, cast out first the beam out of thine own eye, and then shalt thou see clearly to pull out the mote that is in thy brother's eye. |
Luk 7:47 | Wherefore I say unto thee, Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; G863 for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, G863 the same loveth little. |
Luk 7:48 | And he said unto her, Thy sins are forgiven. G863 |
Luk 7:49 | And they that sat at meat with him began to say within themselves, Who is this that forgiveth G863 sins also? |
Luk 8:51 | And when he came into the house, he suffered G863 no man to go in, save Peter, and James, and John, and the father and the mother of the maiden. |
Luk 9:60 | Jesus said unto him, Let G863 the dead bury their dead: but go thou and preach the kingdom of God. |
Luk 10:30 | And Jesus answering said, A certain man went down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and fell among thieves, which stripped him of his raiment, and wounded him, and departed, leaving G863 him half dead. |
Luk 11:4 | And forgive G863 us our sins; for we also forgive G863 every one that is indebted to us. And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil. |
Luk 11:42 | But woe unto you, Pharisees! for ye tithe mint and rue and all manner of herbs, and pass over judgment and the love of God: these ought ye to have done, and not to leave G863 G0 the other undone. G863 |
Luk 12:10 | And whosoever shall speak a word against the Son of man, it shall be forgiven G863 him: but unto him that blasphemeth against the Holy Ghost it shall G863 G0 not be forgiven. G863 |
Luk 12:39 | And this know, that if the goodman of the house had known what hour the thief would come, he would have watched, and not have suffered G863 his house to be broken through. |
Luk 13:8 | And he answering said unto him, Lord, let G863 G0 it alone G863 this year also, till I shall dig about it, and dung it: |
Luk 13:35 | Behold, your house is left G863 unto you desolate: and verily I say unto you, Ye shall not see me, until the time come when ye shall say, Blessed is he that cometh in the name of the Lord. |
Luk 17:3 | Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive G863 him. |
Luk 17:4 | And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive G863 him. |
Luk 17:34 | I tell you, in that night there shall be two men in one bed; the one shall be taken, and the other shall be left. G863 |
Luk 17:35 | Two women shall be grinding together; the one shall be taken, and the other left. G863 |
Luk 17:36 | Two men shall be in the field; the one shall be taken, and the other left. G863 |
Luk 18:16 | But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Suffer G863 little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God. |
Luk 18:28 | Then Peter said, Lo, we have left G863 all, and followed thee. |
Luk 18:29 | And he said unto them, Verily I say unto you, There is no man that hath left G863 house, or parents, or brethren, or wife, or children, for the kingdom of God's sake, |
Luk 19:44 | And shall lay thee even with the ground, and thy children within thee; and they shall G863 G0 not leave G863 in thee one stone upon another; because thou knewest not the time of thy visitation. |
Luk 21:6 | As for these things which ye behold, the days will come, in the which there shall G863 G0 not be left G863 one stone upon another, that shall not be thrown down. |
Luk 23:34 | Then said Jesus, Father, forgive G863 them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots. |
Jhn 4:3 | He left G863 Judaea, and departed again into Galilee. |
Jhn 4:28 | The woman then left G863 her waterpot, and went her way into the city, and saith to the men, |
Jhn 4:52 | Then enquired he of them the hour when he began to amend. And they said unto him, Yesterday at the seventh hour the fever left G863 him. |
Jhn 8:29 | And he that sent me is with me: the Father hath G863 G0 not left G863 me alone; for I do always those things that please him. |
Jhn 10:12 | But he that is an hireling, and not the shepherd, whose own the sheep are not, seeth the wolf coming, and leaveth G863 the sheep, and fleeth: and the wolf catcheth them, and scattereth the sheep. |
Jhn 11:44 | And he that was dead came forth, bound hand and foot with graveclothes: and his face was bound about with a napkin. Jesus saith unto them, Loose him, and let him G863 go. |
Jhn 11:48 | If we let G863 G0 him thus alone, G863 all men will believe on him: and the Romans shall come and take away both our place and nation. |
Jhn 12:7 | Then said Jesus, Let G863 G0 her alone: G863 against the day of my burying hath she kept this. |
Jhn 14:18 | I will G863 G0 not leave G863 you comfortless: I will come to you. |
Jhn 14:27 | Peace I leave G863 with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. |
Jhn 16:28 | I came forth from the Father, and am come into the world: again, I leave G863 the world, and go to the Father. |
Jhn 16:32 | Behold, the hour cometh, yea, is now come, that ye shall be scattered, every man to his own, and shall leave G863 me alone: and yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me. |
Jhn 18:8 | Jesus answered, I have told you that I am he: if therefore ye seek me, let G863 these go their way: |
Jhn 20:23 | Whose soever sins ye remit, G863 they are remitted G863 unto them; and whose soever sins ye retain, they are retained. |
Act 8:22 | Repent therefore of this thy wickedness, and pray God, if perhaps the thought of thine heart may be forgiven G863 thee. |
Act 14:17 | Nevertheless he left G863 not himself without witness, in that he did good, and gave us rain from heaven, and fruitful seasons, filling our hearts with food and gladness. |
Rom 1:27 | And likewise also the men, leaving G863 the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. |
Rom 4:7 | Saying, Blessed are they whose iniquities are forgiven, G863 and whose sins are covered. |
1Co 7:11 | But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let G863 G0 not the husband put away G863 his wife. |
1Co 7:12 | But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him G863 G0 not put G863 G0 her away. G863 |
1Co 7:13 | And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her G863 G0 not leave G863 him. |
Heb 2:8 | Thou hast put all things in subjection under his feet. For in that he put all in subjection under him, he left G863 nothing that is not put under him. But now we see not yet all things put under him. |
Heb 6:1 | Therefore leaving G863 the principles of the doctrine of Christ, let us go on unto perfection; not laying again the foundation of repentance from dead works, and of faith toward God, |
Jas 5:15 | And the prayer of faith shall save the sick, and the Lord shall raise him up; and if he have committed sins, they shall be forgiven G863 him. |
1Jo 1:9 | If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive G863 us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. |
1Jo 2:12 | I write unto you, little children, because your sins are forgiven G863 you for his name's sake. |
Rev 2:4 | Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left G863 thy first love. |
Rev 11:9 | And they of the people and kindreds and tongues and nations shall see their dead bodies three days and an half, and shall G863 G0 not suffer G863 their dead bodies to be put in graves. |
As the entire corpus of "aphiemi" texts is reviewed, it becomes quickly apparent that its meaning is not limited to "remit," and, furthermore, in cases where there is an offender, the offended is also involved.