Linda,
I love to sew, and I used to knit a lot too, but have not done any of that for many years. I also have enjoyed counted cross stitch in the past, though I have not done any of that in a while either.
I have used all of these skills from time to time to make gifts for family members, and I have sewn a lot of the clothing for my family, especially when the kids were small and it saved money, not to mention the fact that I did not want my kids wearing pajamas made of synthetic fabrics, which was all you could legally buy. They had plenty of cotton pajama fabrics at the fabric store, although they all had printed on the selvage: "not suitable for children's sleepwear." I laughed about that with the fabric store employees, as we all knew what we were going to use it for!
Once the kids helped me select some fabric to make a quilt for the AIDS baby quilt project that was sponsored by some SDA organization, though I don't remember any more what it was, but I never had the time to make the quilt before the deadline. Unfortunately, any sewing project I take on cannot be an urgent need, as there is no guarantee when I will get it done, if ever.
If I could devote my full time to sewing from the start of any given project until it's finished, as I did with my daughter's wedding dress, then they would all get done, but most of the time I can't do that.
The wedding dress took 4 months, and the bridesmaid dress I made afterward took 2 more. I had to get other women to sew the other 3 bridesmaids' dresses, and I'll have to say, I was disappointed with all of them. None of them had the quality workmanship I was expecting & hoping for, and it was obvious, even from a distance. I guess it makes a difference in whether you know the cost of those very expensive materials or not as to whether you think it is worthy of your most painstaking work.
I made several muslin bodices of my daughter's dress before I had it fitted and altered well enough to satisfy myself. And I had to cut out more pieces of the actual dress and redo the bodice twice, since I had never sewn with satin before, and made mistakes in pressing seams (which could not be ironed back out), and in getting water spots on it. I sewed on all the lace and the buttons and button loop tape by hand, and also blind-stitched the hem and the facings by hand.
The one woman who I thought would do a very professional job on the maid of honor's dress, because she is a perfectionist, didn't think it was worth her time to be so careful on a dress that would only be worn once, took a lot of shortcuts. I felt that the bridesmaid dresses should be made as carefully as possible also, because the materials were expensive, and the girls had to pay for them themselves as we simply could not afford to buy it all, and the girls ought to be able to sell them at a second-hand clothing store if they wanted to, and recover some of their money. But none of the other dresses were good enough to resell - they all screamed "home-made."
I didn't mean to complain when I started this, but thought somebody else might possibly benefit from hearing the story, so as not to make the same mistake. We did what we had to do, and there is no way I could have made all of those dresses myself, and I don't think anybody but me really noticed. If I had to do it over, I guess I would have no choice but to do the same thing again. Thankfully, I have no other daughters to sew wedding dresses for, and it will be many years before I will have a granddaughter's wedding dress to sew.
I told my daughter at the time that if she had any daughters and they wanted me to sew their wedding dresses, I would do it, but I would not alter hers for them. I don't do alterations - ever! And I don't think anyone could alter that dress to fit someone else anyway. But I am very thankful that that wedding dress & veil survived the 2 fires that destroyed her home and possessions, as they are still hanging in my sewing room closet (formerly her bedroom). They are the only wedding keepsakes she has left, except for the photos, which I have the negatives to. Everything else burned in the first fire.
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The Lord is the strength of my life and my portion forever.
[This message has been edited by Cathy Sears (edited June 02, 2001).]