Zyph,
I think I have stumbled upon another potential blessing, from Readers Digest no less.
I have found an article called "Are boys the weaker sex?"
I took a highlighter pen & marked the books & authors & physicians listed. Then went to Google Search Engine, found lots. The people listed are all degree holding medical people so I will skip titles unless they are not authors & still medical professionals (to save typing - convalessing from the flu.)
Books:
1."Real Boys" & two other volumns in that series by - William Pollack
2."Raising Cain" - Michael Thompson (co-author)
3."The war against boys" - Christina Hoff Sommers
4."Boys and Girls learn differently" - Michael Gurian
Do you have any of these books ?
I do not expect them to be as accurate as the Bible & SOP, but they might develop and articulate in a way that validates what the Bible & SOP say, for an "opening wedge of emotional healing" for non SDA's & SDA's & former SDA's . Many SDA's have been cultivated and trained to be revolted and turned off by the SOP & the Bible. At least here in the U.S.A., and the main thing this article brings to mind is potential hope to repair my infulence during my children's developmental years. Compairing Inspiration & human research I might both find and develop understanding & tools to heal my children & brighten my home. Too bad this has only begun as empty nesters. Sooner would have been better.
But I must add also, God's gift in the Bible believing parents inspired helps. Deuteronomy 30:2,6,8,10 & on. (I used the KJV)
1 ¶ And it shall come to pass, when all these things are come upon thee, the blessing and the curse, which I have set before thee, and thou shalt call them to mind among all the nations, whither the LORD thy God hath driven thee,
2 And shalt return unto the LORD thy God, and shalt obey his voice according to all that I command thee this day, thou and thy children, with all thine heart, and with all thy soul;
3 That then the LORD thy God will turn thy captivity, and have compassion upon thee, and will return and gather thee from all the nations, whither the LORD thy God hath scattered thee.
4 If any of thine be driven out unto the outmost parts of heaven, from thence will the LORD thy God gather thee, and from thence will he fetch thee:
5 And the LORD thy God will bring thee into the land which thy fathers possessed, and thou shalt possess it; and he will do thee good, and multiply thee above thy fathers.
6 And the LORD thy God will circumcise thine heart, and the heart of thy seed, to love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, that thou mayest live.
7 And the LORD thy God will put all these curses upon thine enemies, and on them that hate thee, which persecuted thee.
8 And thou shalt return and obey the voice of the LORD, and do all his commandments which I command thee this day.
9 And the LORD thy God will make thee plenteous in every work of thine hand, in the fruit of thy body, and in the fruit of thy cattle, and in the fruit of thy land, for good: for the LORD will again rejoice over thee for good, as he rejoiced over thy fathers:
10 If thou shalt hearken unto the voice of the LORD thy God, to keep his commandments and his statutes which are written in this book of the law, and if thou turn unto the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul.
11 ¶ For this commandment which I command thee this day, it is not hidden from thee, neither is it far off.
12 It is not in heaven, that thou shouldest say, Who shall go up for us to heaven, and bring it unto us, that we may hear it, and do it?
13 Neither is it beyond the sea, that thou shouldest say, Who shall go over the sea for us, and bring it unto us, that we may hear it, and do it?
14 But the word is very nigh unto thee, in thy mouth, and in thy heart, that thou mayest do it.
15 ¶ See, I have set before thee this day life and good, and death and evil;
16 In that I command thee this day to love the LORD thy God, to walk in his ways, and to keep his commandments and his statutes and his judgments, that thou mayest live and multiply: and the LORD thy God shall bless thee in the land whither thou goest to possess it.
17 But if thine heart turn away, so that thou wilt not hear, but shalt be drawn away, and worship other gods, and serve them;
18 I denounce unto you this day, that ye shall surely perish, and that ye shall not prolong your days upon the land, whither thou passest over Jordan to go to possess it.
19 I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live:
20 That thou mayest love the LORD thy God, and that thou mayest obey his voice, and that thou mayest cleave unto him: for he is thy life, and the length of thy days: that thou mayest dwell in the land which the LORD sware unto thy fathers, to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob, to give them.
SOP books - (just a list from memory)
Ministry of Healing, Christ's Object Lessons, Steps To Christ, Adventist Home, Child Guidence, Mind Character and Personality (2 volumes), Conflict of the Ages Series. I had all these books & used them too little, if at all when Joel and Suzanne were little. It seems, though more difficult logistically due to distance, there may be another chance.
The local SDA Hospital Chaplin wants me to give a testimony @ Church. I do not want to revert to spotlight getting behaviourism sensationalism.
Focusing the folks on what God can and does do, and how with the mass exodus of kids (especially adult kids) from Church. Here is what we can do to connect with God ourselves, here is what we can do to help our kids, here is what we must do to personally change to accomplish that.
They don't need to see me, they need to see Him & His solutions for their families & themselves & practical solutions gleaned from many sources and compaired with inspiration . Maybe this is part of the helping and blessing others kicked into a higher gear.
There is a list of SOP quotes & Bible texts that profoundly affected my life as an SDA after God called me out of 6 yrs of backslidding & seperation from Him. I think the post is getting really long so I will build the list & post seperatly.