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The Good Wife's Guide----Really!
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07/11/01 04:55 PM
07/11/01 04:55 PM
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The Good Wife's GuideHousekeeping Monthly 13 May 1955
- Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when the come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
- Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
- Be a little gay [[remember at the date!]] and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may be need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
- Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.
- Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. and then run a dustcloth over the tables.
- Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
- Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
- Be happy to see him.
- Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
- Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first — remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
- Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax
- Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
- Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
- Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as a minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.
- Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
- Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
- Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
- A good wife always knows her place.
No author listed but it sure wasn't Betty Friedan ------------------ For I know that my redeemer liveth, and that he shall stand at the latter day upon the earth. _________________________ Linda[This message has been edited by Linda Sutton (edited July 11, 2001).]
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Re: The Good Wife's Guide----Really!
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07/12/01 01:42 AM
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It was probably her husband/boyfriend. ------------------ Examine me, O LORD, and prove me: try my reins and my heart. Ps.26:2 It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in men.Ps.118:8
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Re: The Good Wife's Guide----Really!
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07/12/01 10:50 AM
07/12/01 10:50 AM
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Linda, I thought it came from within your own heart!!! __________________________ In His Love, Mercy & Grace Daryl
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Re: The Good Wife's Guide----Really!
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07/12/01 01:31 PM
07/12/01 01:31 PM
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Nope, one of the medical directors for the sleep lab (Dr Roger Balogh) brought it in to my boss. She thought Linda would get a kick out of it, so she brought it in for me. I brought it home to Linda. ------------------ Edward F Sutton
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Re: The Good Wife's Guide----Really!
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07/14/01 01:14 AM
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Would it be un-christian of me to throw up at this point? Little wonder the backlash from this tripe was extremist women's lib. Where do I sign up?
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Re: The Good Wife's Guide----Really!
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07/15/01 03:22 AM
07/15/01 03:22 AM
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The first part was good, but the last, well, a little bit extreme. I like the having supper ready part, and taking a freshening up break. But what's with the let him be out all night?? argg, they had to ruin it.
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Re: The Good Wife's Guide----Really!
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07/15/01 01:33 AM
07/15/01 01:33 AM
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I agree with Jason..that one part had to ruin it. Avalee
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Re: The Good Wife's Guide----Really!
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07/15/01 03:41 AM
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I am so glad that nobody expects this sort of behavior from wives any more. There is absolutely no way that I would even consider becoming a non-person and going along with anything and everything he wants, regardless of whether it is right or wrong. Through the years I have had to oppose my husband very firmly on some matters that were a serious violation of my own conscience, or that would have harmed our family's well-being. My husband is not perfect, and neither is anyone else, myself included, and no man (or woman) has any right to expect to be treated as a god, as this article is really asking women to do! ------------------ The Lord is the strength of my life and my portion forever.
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Re: The Good Wife's Guide----Really!
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07/15/01 05:45 PM
07/15/01 05:45 PM
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I refuse to give credit where credit is not due! Linda [This message has been edited by Edward F Sutton (edited July 15, 2001).]
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Re: The Good Wife's Guide----Really!
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07/15/01 05:47 PM
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Lest anyone think slavery to a master is my idea of the role of a wife, I assure you that it most definately is not. I can't imagine any wife who would never question her husband's all-night absence without being given a valid prior notice! And that bit about "his topics of conversation are more important than yours"--since when?!? That's like saying that wives are stupid and can't possibly converse on their husbands' level. Then this one: "Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him." Try telling that with conviction to a wife who is living with an abuser, whether it is physical, verbal and/or mental abuse. Then there are some men who don't have a shred of common sense in some areas of living. They need lots of help making decisions. Some of this stuff isn't even biblical. Like I said, I don't know who wrote it, but it certainly helps a person see why Betty Friedan wrote The Feminine Mystique in the early 1960's, a book that helped launch a resurrgence of the "women's movment" that same decade. No, I'm not a feminist, but God didn't make women and wives to be slaves to men. He made them equal, but gave them different roles. The feminist movement doesn't recognize the role differences so their idea of equality is to become like men. I actually put it in here tongue-in-cheek. Things have changed a lot in the last 45 years, though I'm not so sure that a lot of women felt that way even in back then. It was probably written by someone who believed the addage "Keep 'em barefoot and pregnant." ------------------ For I know that my redeemer liveth, and that he shall stand at the latter day upon the earth. _________________________ Linda
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Re: The Good Wife's Guide----Really!
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07/16/01 01:44 AM
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Linda, I doubt if anyone really thought, at least for very long, that you agree with those instructions to women. I for one knew right away that you posted it because you thought we would find it amusing. It is, in a way, but it is also sad to think that anyone ever actually believed that wives should behave this way. It seems to me that it may even have been written by an abusive male, or by the codependent wife of one. ------------------ The Lord is the strength of my life and my portion forever.
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