I want us to search the Bible and come up with answers to this question. How should we live. How are we to treat our spouse, how do we keep our marriage strong for 50 or more years? What is our duty as women?

I don't have my Bible on me at the moment, but I know that Proverbs says that it is better to live on a rooftop than with a nagging wife. How to be what the Bible wants us to be?

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Sarah Moss
*Prayer Changes Things!*

The virtues of a virtuous are found in Proverbs 31. Her price is far above rubies. I learned something about rubies some years ago. Many people don't know that diamonds are actually plentiful and the prices are artifically controlled. But a pure, flawless ruby is rare and very expensive. So a true, godly woman isn't like a diamond, she is like a ruby.

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Even so come, Lord Jesus
Linda

"In God have I put my trust; I will not be afraid of what [woman] can do unto me." (Ps.56:11).

Elijah let a woman spook him; and ran from her like a frightened cat. She chased him to the point where he hid in a cave like a coward.

But, when we talk about what a wife should do: she should chase the husband a bit.

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"We are built upon the foundation of the apostles and prophets; Jesus Christ Himself being the Chief Cornerstone!" (Eph.2:20).

Your brother in Christ

David T. Battler

David,

What do you mean by chase? Nag?

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In His Love, Mercy & Grace

Daryl

I seriously doubt he means nag

I guess I see marriage as an equal split between partners. It should not seem that one is more "bossy" (for lack of a better word) than the other. I know that many women feel as if their husband is just like another child, and I'm sure there are some men that feel the same way about their wives. How do we avoid feeling this way?

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Sarah Moss
*Prayer Changes Things!*

When the wife chases the husband, he usually slows down to be caught after the kids are asleep.

Life is never fair. Marriage is a 100/100 split. Each does all they can or are willing to do. The smart couples turn to God, so they won't build the habits of fighting with each other, but God can reverse even bad habits. If the couple uses His remedies for themselves first, and their relationship second. You have to be, before you can do.

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Edward F Sutton

[This message has been edited by Edward F Sutton (edited November 15, 2000).]

Ah ha!

Ed and Linda have the right idea!

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"We are built upon the foundation of the apostles and prophets; Jesus Christ Himself being the Chief Cornerstone!" (Eph.2:20).

Your brother in Christ

David T. Battler

I admit to nagging my husband - just a little! It was for his own good though!
You see, I had discovered the benefits of walking, not only for fitness, but also because it took care of the stresses of life. I wanted my husband to receive the same benefit, but always without response. Till the other day we were at the Doctors together, when she asked my husband if he walked, and he had to admit no!
Since then he has been out every morning, and I notice the walks are getting longer. And there are days when we are able to walk together - which was my lifelong dream.
When my husband lost his job at 57, we have been able to enjoy the pleasure of sharing our workload, so for the last 9 years there have been 2 houskeepers,2 gardeners,and now 2 friends walking the same path. And he admits to feeling the benefits of walking. I believe doing as much as possible together - whether it be church work, round the home, or recreation, creates a happy healthy marriage.
Be Still
Zita

Thank you Zita for sharing that testimony! I have found that when my husband and I do things together, it renews our relationship and spills into other areas of our lives as well.

My question still remains though. Did the nagging help him get walking? How do we convince our spouse that what we want them to do is for their own good and that they'll feel better for it in the long run?

For instance, we have been trying to become vegetarian since April 2000 and I can now say that I am a complete vegetarian. However, my husband is not doing as well as I am. I am not pushing him however, because I want him to be the one deciding what's best for him, even though I already know it!!

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Sarah Moss
*Prayer Changes Things!*